Halloween is approaching and many people are thinking about what costume they will wear and what they will be. While the idea of wearing a costume and becomming something we are not is a fun tradition for halloween, it is also something that is done everyday in relationships, especially new relationships. Can you remember being at a halloween party trying to figure out who is who? Being in a relationship can be similiar as we wear many masks and disquises to be something that we are not or something that we want the other person to see. How do we unmask ourselves and be real and be vulnurable? After all at some point the masks will be removed and the disquises revealed and then what will we be left with? Do we really know who we are or what we want? We often find out what we want by what we don't want - a process of elimination. I remember a long time ago when a potential date asked me about another person I had met and had said that I wasn't intereted in the other person as he wasn't what I wanted, the potential date than asked me "what do you want?" to which I shuttered reflecting that I really didn't have a good answer to what I wanted. The masks and disquises are only illusions but what is really real and what is everlasting. These are some of the things we will be discussion on the The Power of We Radio as we premier our show Monday October 27 at 8pm at www.thepowerofweradio.com
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Janet Lifshin
The HaHa Lady Co-host
Sunday, October 26, 2008
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Masks. We all wear them. Just think of the time you are totally feeling miserable, the phone rings, and you put on your happy voice to say "hello". Interacting with others can be an interesting experience as we test the relationship waters with our single or multiple personnas.
So sometimes the masks can be good. Like the saying goes "act as if." We can act our way into a new way of living by putting on that happy face. Of course, we have to deal with what is causing the misery and those that really know us will see through the mask and uncover or ask what is going on. Imagine a world if people really said how they were feeling instead of saying "I am fine" we said, "I am miserable, life is hard, look at this economy.. etc."
There is a time to show our real selves and a time to put on that happy face.
Our next show is on poetry so I am posted a poem that I wrote about dating. Poetry is such a part of love and on Nov 3 we will be talking about poetry including erotic poetry. I have so many poems that I have written about love so here's one of my favorites
WHAT IF LIFE WERE A GAME OF CHECKERS
Janet S. Lifshin August 2001
What if life were a game of checkers
You made a move
I made a move
eventually your pieces were on my side
and mine on yours
& don't forget those jumps and the kings (and queens) and then the pieces
would go both ways
We would play until there were no more pieces on the board,
all the jumps were made
and one person would be a winner
and then we would start over
the same game yet different
Life moves in that way sometimes
What if life were a game of scrabble?
Taking letters and making words,
using our minds to create a puzzle of unconnected yet connected thoughts
We'd go round till all the letters were gone and we count up the points and
one of us would win and then in a blink of an eye
we would be just letters again waiting in the dark to come alive to put our
pieces back on the table
to be another creation of minds meeting
Sometimes in the newness of knowing someone those letters stay in the bag, not
knowing what to say or how to act...
What if we were a game?
What would we be called?
Our journey of discovery where there are no rules.
What’s the saying, no rules, just right?
We would establish some guidelines so it is fair for both.
It wouldn't be your move or my move. There would be an understanding. I would
not have to wait to hear from you, I could make a move and be totally
comfortable. Each time we played the game would be the same yet different.
We would learn and grow and discover our likes and our dislikes, our goals,
our passions, our purpose and even how long we are supposed to play our game
together. Sometimes moving apart, sometimes together and ah those
jumps, moving rhymically together in rhyme and reason enjoying each other as
only winners can.
Each day a new bag of letters create wonderful words of expression as the
king and queen of this game delight in the dance of destiny.
Enjoy the dance... come and play...a game of chance... a game of choice...of
freedom and fun...learning, loving....being...
Janet
I am delighted to see your blog and read your posts.
I am excited for you and wish you much success with the radio show.
Monday November 10th join us at The Power of We Radio for another exciting program this weeks topic is: From the Boardroom to the Bedroom
Fun Ways to Keep Your Relationships Profitable in Uncertain Times
Our guest is
Marianne St. Clair who is forever inspiring her clients through the Art of Play with fun and practical ways to address life's many facets such as human potential, relationships, work, money, addictions, health, sexuality and spirituality. Marianne proposes some very challenging and exciting ideas that can change the way we live forever.
Contact Marianne St. Clair by phone 386-965-1815 or email her direct at Mariannestclair@aol.com
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